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Les défis des relations difficiles
Le principal problème quand on traite avec une personnalité toxique c’est d’être capable de l’identifier. On entre dans le déni, surtout si c’est quelqu’un de proche de nous ou dont on dépend : « Une si bonne personne, elle a toujours été comme cela, c’est son caractère, vous me direz ». Peut-être… Mais si son…
Read MoreThe Challenges of Difficult Relationships
The main problem in dealing with a toxic personality is being able to identify it. We go into denial, especially if it’s someone close to us or on whom we depend: “Such a good person, she’s always been like that, it’s her character, you’ll tell me”. But if her behavior is predictable, repetitive and inflexible,…
Read MoreLe psychopathe – un caméléon avec des dents acérées
Le psychopathe est vide à l’intérieur. Pour combler cette lacune, il doit s’habiter des caractéristiques de sa proie… Vous en l’occurrence, s’il en a l’opportunité. Il prendra le temps, sans que vous le sachiez, de s’informer sur vous sur l’Internet, sur Facebook, pour connaître vos points d’intérêt, vos amis et vous posera beaucoup de questions…
Read MoreThe Psychopath – A Chameleon with Sharp Teeth
The psychopath is empty inside. To fill this void, he needs a persona. Like the chameleon, he adopts the characteristics of his surroundings—including the look and feel of his prey. If he has the opportunity, his prey might be you. He will take the time to learn about you on the Internet, on Facebook, and…
Read MoreWorking Life from Purpose and Not Emotions: “Ma’am, You’ve Got a Flat Tire”
By Jocelyne Durand (An excerpt from my upcoming book, From Fear to Freedom: Triumphing Over Abuse and Difficult Relationships) I had parked in a parking lot in downtown Ottawa. I sprang from the car, briefcase in hand, in a hurry to get to my class. A man with a cap on his head sat in…
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Agir à partir du but et non de l’émotion
« Madame, vous avez une crevaison »
(Un extrait de mon prochain livre, From Fear to Freedom: Triumphing over Abuse and Difficult Relationships) Je viens tout juste de garer dans un stationnement du centre-ville d’Ottawa. Je sors à la hâte de l’auto, valise à la main, pressée de me rendre en salle de classe. Un homme à casquette, assis dans son camion…
Read MoreThe Pervasive Issue of Difficult Personalities
“In order for there to be hope, we must educate and become proactive in resolving this heartbreaking issue.” – Jocelyne Durand The problem of dealing with difficult and abrasive personalities is pervasive and growing. In order for there to be hope, we must educate and inform and become more proactive in resolving this heartbreaking issue.…
Read MoreLeurrée jusqu’à devenir prisonnière d’une relation abusive
Plus tôt dans ma vie, j’avais été séduite sans le savoir, devenue prisonnière d’une relation abusive ou j’avais perdu ma liberté physique, financière et émotionnelle. Et oui, j’étais revenue vers cet homme, comme plusieurs femmes le font, sous l’emprise d’une attraction fatale. Une fois ma liberté et mon pouvoir retrouvés, je me suis promis de…
Read MoreSeduced into Becoming an Innocent Prisoner of an Abusive Relationship
In my early life, I had unknowingly been seduced into becoming a prisoner of an abusive relationship and had lost my physical, financial and emotional freedom in the process. And yes, I actually later returned to this man, just like many women do after being under the spell of a dark attraction. When I eventually rewon…
Read MoreYou Can’t Spot What You’re Not Aware Of! Five High Conflict Personality Disorders To Recognize
In his excellent book It’s All Your Fault at Work (2015), Bill Eddy refers to five high conflict personality types that will most often show up in workplace disputes. Since you can’t evade them in the workplace, being aware of how they manifest allows you to appropriately react to them and find constructive ways to deal with…
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