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My former gynecologist shared with me a year ago what she observes of the dramatic impact on first-care people who live with a partner who suffer from cognitive loss. She pled that I write something about it. Specialized in the field of personality disorders I was not aware of how prevalent cognitive decline was and…

The trauma consequent to a Pathological Love Relationship (PLR) differs from the Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) even if some of the symptoms concur (flash backs, anxiety, despair). According to Sandra Brown[1], cognitive dissonance is the primary psychological injury from PLR. It’s not the beatings, the cheating, the loss of money, nor the shaming sex as…

MAKING YOUR BELIEFS WORK FOR YOU • Our world is made of what we think – we create our worlds WITH OUR THOUGHTS whether we know it or not. • The childhood banking (negative and positive deposits) and its effect: moving out of the conditioning aftermaths • 95% of the time, our actions and behaviors…

Le principal problème quand on traite avec une personnalité toxique c’est d’être capable de l’identifier. On entre dans le déni, surtout si c’est quelqu’un de proche de nous ou dont on dépend : « Une si bonne personne, elle a toujours été comme cela, c’est son caractère, vous me direz ». Peut-être… Mais si son…

The main problem in dealing with a toxic personality is being able to identify it. We go into denial, especially if it’s someone close to us or on whom we depend: “Such a good person, she’s always been like that, it’s her character, you’ll tell me”. But if her behavior is predictable, repetitive and inflexible,…

The psychopath is empty inside. To fill this void, he needs a persona. Like the chameleon, he adopts the characteristics of his surroundings—including the look and feel of his prey. If he has the opportunity, his prey might be you. He will take the time to learn about you on the Internet, on Facebook, and…

By Jocelyne Durand (An excerpt from my upcoming book, From Fear to Freedom: Triumphing Over Abuse and Difficult Relationships) I had parked in a parking lot in downtown Ottawa. I sprang from the car, briefcase in hand, in a hurry to get to my class. A man with a cap on his head sat in…

“In order for there to be hope, we must educate and become proactive in resolving this heartbreaking issue.” – Jocelyne Durand  The problem of dealing with difficult and abrasive personalities is pervasive and growing. In order for there to be hope, we must educate and inform and become more proactive in resolving this heartbreaking issue.…

In my early life, I had unknowingly been seduced into becoming a prisoner of an abusive relationship and had lost my physical, financial and emotional freedom in the process.  And yes, I actually later returned to this man, just like many women do after being under the spell of a dark attraction. When I eventually rewon…